We are headed into the Holiday Season; children are thinking of Christmas presents, parents of family gatherings. Even with the joy of the season, we are also a year older and in some cases a little less \u201cfestive\u201d as we were last year. The stress of Christmas shopping and get togethers may be more intense than in past years. So, as we think of the holiday season try to slow down; cherish your parents, spouse and children and know not every day is going to be \u201cperfect\u201d. Sometimes, the obtainable is not a perfect day, but only a perfect moment; cherish that moment. Life today is active, especially for women aged 45 \u2014 55 who care for both their parents and children. These are the people caught in the \u201csandwich generation\u201d.
\nLife changes in the aging process, sometimes moms or dads become the main caregiver for their spouse. Sometimes a child becomes the main caregiver for a parent. These times are tough, we may be thinking about the loved one we lost during 2018. At that time look for \u201cperfect moments\u201d and \u201cgood memories\u201d. Also, at that time it becomes most important to care for the one most neglected \u2014 \u201courselves\u201d.
\nOne disease requiring a great deal of caregiving is Alzheimer\u2019s. A Stanford School of Medicine study showed care giving responsibilities for Alzheimer\u2019s and dementia can last 10 \u2014 15 years. During that time caregivers often ignored their personal health and experienced mental health issues such as depression, substance abuse and a number of physical problems. Their researchers showed that Alzheimer\u2019s caregivers have a 63% higher mortality than non-caregivers. In fact, 40% of the caregivers die from stress related health issues prior to the patient dying.
\nIf you have a parent caring for another, reach out. Observe, see what they need. Bring supplies, groceries, and dinners. Ask to go to doctors\u2019 visits with them. Prepare yourself with information on the health issue your loved one has. Be prepared to help with whatever is needed. Don\u2019t wait for your parent to ask; they probably won\u2019t. Tell them you will be there to help and visit with the patient during a specific time. Give the caregiver permission to leave for a couple of hours. If you cannot find the time to help in this manner, hire a home care sitter for three or four hours as a gift.
\nThe motivational writer and speaker, John Maxwell, talks of easing the stress of life by planning. Even while caring for a loved one, time must be planned for the caregiver. Whether it\u2019s an Alzheimer\u2019s support group, church activity, shopping trip, a movie or stopping in at the library, caregivers must take time for themselves. This is all part of planning our life.
\nWould you take a substantial trip without planning ahead? You may plan for Christmas; where the day will be held, who\u2019s coming, and what food will be served. Life is a broader view of this. A plan allows someone to stay focused and stay on course. In a caregiver\u2019s situation, planning allows for relief of stress of the unknown, and time just to unwind from the stress of providing care. John Maxwell says: \u201clife is not a dress rehearsal, you only get to do it one time.\u201d Make your \u201cone time\u201d the best it can be. This column is for a special friend \u2014 make time for yourself.
\nCoordinating care for your children and parents simultaneously is not easy. What can you do to manage this? Three words of advice: Plan, Plan and Plan. Legal, financial, residential, mental and physical healthcare elements must be addressed prior to a crisis. A sandwich generationer should guide their parent through these issues and the primary issue of safety, while being careful not to take all control away from a parent. Once again, it is important to start talking, making suggestions and guiding early, do not wait for a crisis.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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